In my dream Marty told me. She touched my face with her hands, she leaned over, kissed my cheek and said, “Thank you for loving me. I was right about all of this, don’t ever be afraid.”
About two weeks after Marty passed in 2019 I had a dream. I normally don’t remember dreams, this one I did because I woke up and the memory stuck.
I remember the dream today.
Like any memory I’ve had, I’ve probably managed to edit and emphasize the dream to meet my own ideas. It’s what we do, we revise, we edit, we embellish, we make our memories fit into our preconceived ideas.
The most important parts, the words, the gestures, the end, I remember. Those parts feel real even today.
In this dream I’m pushing Marty’s wheelchair across a forest trail. It’s a well-maintained path, one of those crushed granite paths that allows for easy wheelchair travel, about 4 feet wide with grass or dirt on either side. I could hear the small pieces of the trail being crushed and breaking under the hard rubber tires of the wheelchair, a crunching sound.
To the right is a small creek, rushing to its end, noisily running over earth, rocks, and vegetation as it seeks lower ground and a place to spill. To the left were trees and bushes and flowers, all volunteer, growing at different rates to different heights with no rhyme nor reason for where they planted themselves.
We moved across the path in silence, listening to the water, listening to the ravens talking to the other ravens, listening to the wind blow through the trees on our left. The leaves danced to the tune of the wind, the water moved relentlessly across a path dug eons ago, a place for the water to run to its master.
We hadn’t walked far when I saw a spot to move off the trail and sit and listen to the sounds of life around us. I told Marty what I was going to do, she just nodded. We pulled off to the side and I stared at the brook, the clear water slowly moving downhill.
I’m not sure what it is about the sound of running water, I just know it gives comfort. We stopped and listened and watched the birds fly, the clouds billow and the water continue to erode the ground as it rushed and tumbled down the hill.
I looked at Marty and she stood from her wheelchair and faced me. Blew my mind. This was not the sick, broken Marty, this was the Marty I met in 1974, the Marty with long brown straight hair parted in the middle. This was the Marty in too short cut offs and a white cotton blouse that moved slowly in the wind.
Marty turned to me; the wheelchair that had transported her for 14 years was gone. She stood for a couple of beats and looked at me, her blue eyes clear, sharp, and knowing. She reached up to me, put one hand on each side of my cheek and said, “Thank you for loving me so well”, she kissed my lips gently and whispered in my ear, “I was right, it’s just like I said.”
I looked at her, looked up and she was gone. I watched standing beside that stream in silence. I saw a small white butterfly flying away, up and around a mountain juniper and down the trail without me.
That was all. Truthfully, I’m not sure how much of this is the exact dream and how much of it is my own brain creating what I want to remember. I just don’t know.
I’ve struggled a bit to write this. In some ways it feels a bit, well, weird. I’m not into weird supernatural stuff. Well maybe not.
When I was
hiking in Colorado this past June with friends I was walking down a forest
trail and what did I see, a white butterfly.
I followed the butterfly up the trail a short distance and out into a small
white meadow with a stream of snow melt running downhill. It was like my dream, and I left a little of
Marty in Rocky Mountain National Park.
My grands will never see another white butterfly and not think of their grandmother.
It’s a good story and as far as I know, the dead level truth.
